Need v. Want
Could you please elaborate on the release of needing a partner versus wanting it?
- Please Elaborate
Dear Please Elaborate,
I always felt I needed partnership because I am not safe in my family of origin. I needed a partner in order to be safe interacting with my family & in order to have a family of my own I could be safe in. That is a pretty big ask for someone to fill. This process brought me to a breakdown where I thought it was not working. Everyone always said "once you don't want it, you'll have it!" And I'd be like ummmmm…well…I'm never & to not want this, so I guess I'm doomed. Not so. I decided: Okay, this is my family. Me and my little doggie in our little studio apartment. This is it. I am already whole. The values of our family are XYZ, the rules in this home are XYZ, etc. more people & pets may come & go from this family, but it is a family. I accepted that may be as good as it would get & it was pretty good. I had comfort, love, security. I was able to manifest dates with interesting men, so I thought, maybe I'll just be that person that dates & is fabulous & does her thing. I still wanted partnership, that never changed. But my true desperation & need for one was healed & my husband waltzed into my life about a week after this shift. Hope this helps!
xo
Hortense
