Long Distance
Dear Hortense,
I recently reconnected with someone. We hit it off immediately & it felt like I finally had it. I also believe in angel numbers & that has been crazy & everything felt so on track. I was even about to meet his family, but he just got told he is being relocated for his job that is 7 hours away. He does not think it is beneficial to either of us to do the long distance, but I truly felt like this could have been the one. Was this a manifestation? Is this something I should still try to invest in? I was also thinking this might be a boundary. My previous relationship switched over to long distance part way through & I felt like I was bending backwards in that relationship to make it work.
Well…update. After a few days of texting, with no idea where this was going, I let him know that I was confused as to why we were continuing to talk, when he was not interested in long distance, and that I am looking for more than just friendship. If I had that wrong, I told him to let me know, but otherwise I told him it was best if we took some space from each other for now. I have not heard back. So, guess that tells me something. If it was meant for me, I am sure the outcome would be different.
- Bending Backwards
Dear Bending Backwards,
Oof. Okay, girl. I'm so sorry, but BULLET DODGED. The universe did not want you to waste one more second on this person. My husband proposed to me seven months after meeting me...which some people think could sound crazy, but it is not. What seems crazy to me today is how long I used to stay in situationships where I was getting scraps & zero commitment or future building. My best friend’s fiancé bought a ring after ONE MONTH (he didn't ask for a while though because he didn't want to seem crazy & wanted to be traditional to meet her father). My dad proposed to my mom two weeks after meeting her...(she said “no” at first because that WAS crazy, but his feelings remained unchanged). When men are ready for partnership, they are ready. They will move heaven & earth to be with you & not let you go. This can be the last time you settle for this if you want it to be. You are worthy of love & it is available to you.
I am so sorry you are going through this. Cry in the bath, eat some sweets, do what you need to do. You will get through the heartache, but remember you do not ever have to feel this heartache again, because you do not ever have to waste your time on someone who is not going to give you what you want or need, which is commitment, love & partnership. I made excuses for a very long time & rationalized myself as needy & the problem. None of that was true. Sending you love. You are going to be okay.
To the original question, YES this was a manifestation. He is a reflection of many of the qualities you will manifest in your partner. This was a boundary that was set for you, so you did not have to experience the long-distant torture you already went through. Your ascension of this cycle of the magick process will complete once you move through the heaviness of this grief. You will be ready to begin again very soon at the next, higher level. Good work. You did it.
(Next time, these conversations are not to be had via text, but more on that later).
x
Hortense
