Hope v. Magick
Dear Hortense,
I am a hopeful romantic, but signed up here after another failed dating process. I've never been in a long term partnership, but the one that just ended felt closer than it has ever been. I am devastated, but know this is what is meant for my life & am just trying to hold on to trust that I deserve love & happiness.
- Hopeful Romantic
Dear Hopeful Romantic,
First, I wonder if you've explored my concept of cycles. Manifesting a husband and life partner is possible, but if you have never been in a committed relationship, then you need to reflect that truth to yourself so you can believe it. I would manifest that first, (it's actually super easy…little did I know in my situationship 20s...you can do it in like 90 days with this process, no sweat).
The second thing is to find an outward reflection of partnership that has what you want. I only had one couple who had what I wanted & they are a fictional TV couple. I had to filter out influence from most others.
Thid thing to consider is why you want a partner. I had to figure out why I felt I needed a partner, certainly at times I had felt desperate for one. Why? How did I think partnership would make me feel that I was not able to feel without it? For me, the answer came down to family. I am not safe in my family of origin & truly believed the only way I could be a part of them was if I had a partner to keep me safe & so I could have my own family. Yowzer. That was a lot of subconscious energy to bring on a first date! After the revelation, it was able to quickly heal & I met my husband a few weeks later. I guarantee he would NOT have been into me as more than a fling if I had not healed this beforehand. The point is I no longer needed him, I was able to just want him.
Fourth, hope is a suicide. Faith without works is dead, as the saying goes. You can be as hopeful & optimistic as you like, but until you meet the shadow that is keeping you in this desperation & lack energetic, until you truly integrate the horror & disgust that comes with accepting that you might not ever have the partnership you desire, I would not attach to the feeling or concept of hope.
We don't hope for the best at Dear Hortense. We do deep, powerful & serious magick to align with our destiny & manifest whatever the f*ck our heart desires.
xo
Hortense
