Office Crush
Dear Hortense,
I’ve been flirting & talking with a guy in my office a bit.
He smiles at me every time he passes my office & I get a fully body attention high.
How do I move through this kind of craving?
- Craving Co-Worker
Dear Craving Co-Worker,
The awareness is monumental, the action of pausing is incredible. I imagine this must be a very uncomfortable time, but you are processing & releasing so much. I completely relate to your feelings & experience. It sounds like a deep child wound of lack. Grief is the solution here. I got through it. Sometimes I would even induce times to grieve in a hot bath, etc.
Just know that WHEN your partner arrives, you will not have this experience. When a man wants you & is ready & available for commitment, he will make it known very quickly. You will not need to long for your real partner, because when you are both ready, he will arrive! You are well on your way.
Finally, I always related to anxious attachment, but I have never been anxious in my relationship, because my husband has always been open, communicative, committed & present. My past partners were not, so, NATURALLY, I was anxious about them & our relationship all the time. I see attachment styles differently. I was picking triggering partners, but my reaction to their ridiculous behavior was actually extremely healthy & aligned.
xo
Hortense
